This past Friday the Canadian Decorators Association – BC Chapter held our annual general meeting in North Vancouver on a fabulous, hot and sunny day!
I have been a member for months but this is the first time I have been to an event–silly me–now that I live in the country it seems the monthly meeting date never works for me. From now on, that is going to change!
When I met this warm and friendly group of members and colleagues in the design industry I felt so welcome and instantly part of the group! As you know, I don’t feel that way often.
I was one of the speakers, my talk was 7 Rules for Stress Free Colour Consultations. Being able to explain the WHY behind your advice is so important.
Lesley Arnoud (above left) was the board member in charge of organizing the AGM, she did such a great job, I was so happy to be there that day!
Ranbir Puar (below) was the last speaker and she was up right after lunch. Everyone was really touched by her presentation.
Maria Killam & Ranbir Puar, The Freedom Exercise
Ranbir’s talk was about freedom & setting goals. Here are my takeaways:
“Only 3% of us write out our goals every day, those 3% have 97% of the income.
You would never construct the house of your dreams without a plan, so how can you possibly do that with your life?
If your clothes don’t fit you get rid of them. But we hang onto behaviours that don’t work for us.
Do you want instant gratification or long-term satisfaction? Instead of saying “I can’t do that”, ask yourself “How can I do it?” or “How can I solve this limiting situation?”.
If you need to figure out a solution to something, take the question to bed with you.
A great mind can be achieved in many ways but first you must establish what your mind chatter is. To do that, write down what you are thinking about as you do the dishes, making dinner, etc.
Trust your gut feelings.”
My big question for her was “So many times, when something bad happens, I go straight to the worst possible scenario in my head, I freak out like ‘the sky is falling'” From a contractor doing something wrong on my house or having technical difficulties with my site (for example), instead of looking at the situation like a mature adult, my reaction is really young.
I have done so many years of personal growth and development work which has been really great in so many ways, for example, this blog would not be as successful as it is without the work that I have done, that is for sure! But this is one area of my life that I have not mastered and it bothers me a lot. Not to mention totally stressful for people who are close to me.
When I did a little therapy many years ago and the therapist would say “How do you feel about that?” I would say “Can I get a multiple choice list that I can choose from? I have no idea”. I couldn’t even get to that place to FEEL SOMETHING. It’s way easier for me to THINK rather than FEEL. Although I’m just as sensitive as anyone else. Hmmm. . . does this even make sense, I’m not sure.
It’s one of the reason why I attract so many scientist types who attend my workshops! Because I’m the same way! By the way this Wednesday the early bird discount will end for May’s Specify Colour with Confidence Training. Sign up here.
Anyway, after Rambir’s talk on Friday, I spoke with her for some time afterwards and the tears streamed down my face the entire time, it was kind of embarrassing. I instantly booked an appointment to work with her.
Hey, if you find someone who moves you on a deep level, you act!! That’s what I usually do anyway. How about you?
Happy Monday my lovelies! xoxo Maria
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