How to Make Your Husband Cry
Have you listened to my Ballard podcast yet? I was so honoured to be a part of the amazing group of creatives that appear on their podcast! We taped the podcast in Atlanta last Fall after Caroline, Taryn and Karen spent Day 1 in my workshop! It’s all about my system and what you learn in my courses. It inspired me to write this post: How to Make Your Husband Cry.
I have listened to most of Ballard’s podcasts, but the one that really made me stop and take notes was this one that they posted with Melanie Turner.
Melanie has a gorgeous portfolio and these are some of her images, but the conversation she had about living a lovely life was what I wanted to share with YOU my lovelies!
Excerpt from the podcast
This is an excerpt from the podcast, it’s about 45 minutes in if you want to listen. And you should just listen to the whole interview:
“I tell my clients all the time. All the time, whenever the husband keeps saying:
‘I’m not doing this, I’m not doing that’.
‘Okay Mr. Saver, but you’re making all this money and keeping it aside, 20 years from now when you go to do your house because your son or daughter is getting married you’ll look at your wife and say “Why didn’t we do this 20 years ago?’
What is the purpose?? Why would you not want to surround yourself with beauty and sitting down with your family and enjoying your life.
Everything in your life can be special if you want it to be.”
“It’s very easy to dismiss your home, this thing that is around us all the time, it invigorates us and holds us in it’s arms all day every day, and it’s so important in our lives to make the things that we look at every day, beautiful. Those things that you feel and touch and sit on, feed you every day.
They [husbands] get it once their home is finished, there is no turning back.
Living in a beautiful home makes every day feel like a luxury. It’s special.
Decorators add so much to people’s lives, we give purpose to how you live.
In the end, when they walk into the final reveal, it’s always the husband that’s crying, ALWAYS.
And it’s because they work so hard and they never thought they would live that way. It gives purpose.
How can you not want that?” Melanie Turner in Ballard Designs How to Decorate podcast.
Have I Seen a Husband Cry?
I’ve never actually seen a husband cry, but when we’re at the reveal stage, I have had them walk into the house with a big delighted smile and say something like, “Am I allowed to sit down yet?” This question illuminates, “How to Make Your Husband Cry.”
Interior Design and Styling by Maria Killam (Wall colour, BM Quiet Moments) Duvet cover here
Last Summer, when we photographed this project (which included this refreshed master bedroom above), I had picked up two little beakers (below) to display with one sprig of greenery on each bedside table because the existing end tables were small.
Photography by Barry Calhoun
I styled them strictly for the photoshoot because the wife (Deborah) told me that her husband didn’t want any decor on his table because he needed room for a book and his glasses. Since her husbands end table was what you first saw when you walked into the room, she confided she’d love to leave it styled.
But I proceeded to remove my vignettes but left the beaker vases because well, they were small enough so I figured maybe they might stay.
Later that evening, I received this text from Deborah:
There’s No Turning Back
See? There’s no turning back as Melanie said.
Living in a beautiful home truly does make every day feel like a luxury.
That’s how I feel all the time in my home, the colours, the furniture, the styling bring me so much joy, I feel lucky and so grateful to be born with this gift and it’s why I’m passionate about sharing it here in this space and teaching it to others in my colour workshops all over the country!
You don’t have to be wealthy, style doesn’t have to be expensive, but the interesting thing about atmosphere is that it doesn’t matter how many Pinterest images you save, you (or your husband/spouse/wife) won’t feel it (atmosphere) until it has been installed in your home.
So the next time your husband (spouse, wife) reacts to the decorating bill, send him/her the link to this post.
We spend so much time in our homes, it’s wonderful to have a house that fills you with happiness when you walk in the door! If you need help with atmosphere and getting your colours right in your home, check out our interior and exterior eDesign packages here.
Over to the decorators, who cried when they saw your reveal?