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What is Love to You?

By 02/13/2010January 23rd, 201740 Comments

We only regard those unions as real examples of love and real marriages in which a fixed and unalterable decision has been taken. If men or women contemplate an escape, they do not collect all their powers for the task. In none of the serious and important tasks of life do we arrange such a “getaway.” We cannot love and be limited. Alfred Alder


Is that a good argument for commitment and marriage or what? When I was younger I used to think love was all about chemistry. Now I say marry your best friend and then you’ll be happy for a long, long time!


Tell me who admires and loves you, And I will tell you who you are. Charles Augustin Sainte-Beuve

Happy Valentines Day my lovelies!

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  • Ivy Lane says:

    Maria, I agree and I did! (marry my best friend) 23 years and going strong!

    Happy Valentine's Day!

  • Karena says:

    Maria, lovely sentiments! I agree fall in love with your best friend, however the chemistry is a must. Hopeless romantic that I am!

  • Tracy @ Comfort and Luxury says:

    As someone with the experience of having been married more than once, I feel qualified to say yes, absolutely, you must marry someone you like as much as you love. Admiration and respect are every bit as important as chemistry and heat. A favorite quote goes something like "Love is friendship that has caught fire".

  • Marija says:

    The last quote, I adore it. Happy Valentine's Day!

  • ~mott says:

    Oh yes, Maria–I couldn't agree more! It is wonderful to have fire and friendship but I am getting to the age that the friendship means the most. Somehow that didn't come out like I meant it! Hopefully, you know what I mean. The passion is still there–it's just the friendship continues to grow to the point of finishing each other's sentences, thoughts, etc. And Tracy @ Comfort and Luxury–I love the quote 'Love is friendship that has caught fire'! Think I'll borrow that one this V-Day!

  • Roxy Te Owens says:

    I love the last quote as well! 🙂

  • Marlo says:

    I'm marrying my best friend this year and he has the top two qualities that I've been looking for – kindness & compassion. Oh, and he's cute too! And he has an eye for colour – gotta love that! 🙂

    Happy Valentine's Day Maria!

  • Francine Gardner says:

    Happy Valentine day! My husband is my very best friend and has been for the past 25 years….
    I could not help but tagged you for the Blogger Kreativ Award…which means that you will need to reveal 7 things about yourself and in turn nominate 7 other bloggers…

  • Herself says:

    Very true!

  • Linda at Lime in the Coconut! says:

    Love the quote by Sainte-Beuve!

    You are loved!

  • Sarah La Rose says:

    Happy Valentine's Day Maria!!

  • Kathy @ Creative Home Expressions says:

    Happy Valentine's Day, Maria! I couldn't agree more ~ my hubby is my best friend. I'm in love with him {still} and love him.

  • Dayka (Life +Style) says:

    Love the quote of "show me someone admires/loves you and I'll tell you who you are." Also love the one about friendship posted here. Have a great weekend!

  • Acanthus and Acorn says:

    Beautiful, insightful quotes. It is the friendships that nurture our souls and sustain us. I have loved the same man since my early twenties. He is out of the country, but near and dear to my heart today and always.

  • Soma Pradhan says:

    You are a sweetheart! Have a very happy valentine's day!

  • Emily A. Clark says:

    Ain't that the truth? 🙂 The longer I'm married, the more I realize what a choice love it.

  • Lauren @ withTWOcats says:

    Hi Maria. As usual I love your beautiful images and your words of wisdom. I agree entirely – marrying your best friend = happiness.

    I also wanted to pass along this award to you:

    Share 10 things you love and 10 blogs you love and want to pass the award to!

  • Bob West says:

    Very interesting
    I enjoyed visiting your blog
    God Bless;

  • Annie@A View On Design says:

    well I'm not really a fan of sayings for things like marriage or happiness, but I do agree it takes commitment! that's for sure!

  • Laura Trevey says:

    Happy Valentines Day Maria!!
    Such a true post as well ~~

    xoxo Laura

  • unique unique design says:

    Good point. We are not planning a bank heist, so going into marriage with a "getaway" plan does seem a bit disingenuous. 🙂
    Have a Happy Valentine's day!

  • The Zhush says:

    The last quote is perfect! Hope you are having a fabulous Valentine's Day!

  • Annie, bossy color says:

    Happy Valentine's Day to you, too, Maria! Love that picture of the pink and red room – I've always loved that combo. You have to be a pretty spicy person to pull it off!

  • Ideezine says:


    Happy Valentine's Day!
    Love is being with a person in life that allows you to bloom and grow and someone to catch rainbows with in life's ebb and flow.

    Someone who laughs and strives to improve him/her self, strives for balance and shows a deep rooted kindness towards others and is a blessing to have in a crisis. Love is two half's that fit together perfectly to make a whole brilliant heart and life together.


  • Lauren says:

    awwww ok so loved this post and got teary-eyed at Tracy's quote. beautiful.

    I really agree that beyond all the chem you have to enjoy your time together: doing fun things, travelling, working, living, etc.

    happy valentine's day maria!!!!

  • Appletree says:

    If we feel that way about marriage why wouldn't we want it for everyone? Sorry to get poilitical. But on this day we should practice loving all of gods creatures, gay or straight, black or white, christian or muslim, jewish, …

  • Maria Killam says:

    Hi Appletree,
    I completely agree. That quote resonated with me because I think it applies to any area of your life (including relationships) where you decide to throw your hat over the fence (meaning there is no going back) and truly get committed. That is way more powerful than sitting on the fence!!

    Thanks for posting your opinion!!

  • Between you, me and the Fencepost says:

    I believe that's why marriage is so relevant to those 'living together forever couples'. Marriage is the institution of 'as long as we both shall live'. Living together is done with a foot out the door. Now, the argument is: how seriously will one take their marriage vows is a whole other post . . . .

  • Trädgårdsmakaren says:

    I fully agree, be a good friend and you will have one – right there:-)

    Nice blog and pics!

    Have a nice day
    Hillevissan, Stockholm Sweden

  • Kelly, Arte Styling says:

    Happy Valentine's Day, Maria! Great quotes – beautiful room. LOVE that tufted sofa.

  • VictoriaArt says:

    What a sweet post! I am thankfully loved by the best people!

    Big hug – love you!

  • samia says:

    I agree completely.. I also loved this quote which tracy posted

    " Love is friendship that caught fire"

    What a relationship comes to mind! Perfect!

  • Ruthie's Renewed Treasures says:

    Love is an investment that will pay back as the years go by!

    Wishing you lots of love this year Maria!


  • Gwen says:

    Happy Valentine's Day to you too.

    The only time that love has really worked for me was when we were friends first. If there was only heat, that heat always went out eventually and I was left in the cold;)

  • colorchic says:

    What a great post! I agree marrying your best friend is best, and someone you trust with all your heart!

  • Just A Girl says:

    Oohh I'm saving those quotes! We've been together so long, but I still love the little things. Like I got my hair done the other day and we were walking to the car from dinner and it started raining and without saying anything he took off his hat and put it on me:)

  • A Gift Wrapped Life says:

    I went for the chemistry and my best friend. After a 39 yr. love affair I am beginning to think I must be right. Love is a funny thing.

  • AB HOME Interiors says:

    I married my best friend. He drives me crazy! Sometimes good sometimes bad but I wouldn't trade it for anything. Our anniversary is in April and we will be celebrating 10 years!

  • Jess @ Frugal with a Flourish says:

    Happy Valentines day! I married my hubby after 7 years of back and forth. We both agree that we are glad we took the time then to work out our insecurities!

    Thanks for stopping by the other day!

  • Verve! says:

    Happy Belated Valentine's Day, Maria! I love the advice! I am marrying my best friend and partner in crime in October. If it wasn't for his support I wouldn't be taking on a new chapter in life. I'm very grateful and lucky!

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